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Some thoughts on stress, emotional energy, and well-being

It is becoming increasingly accepted these days that stress is a major contributor to disease. But what is stress exactly?

To me, stress is simply an emotional energy that has not been able to move through the body and be discharged or recylced into new energy.

This is often due to cultural discomfort with showing and experiencing emotions in general, and some emotions in particular.

Different societies have different attitudes to emotional display, and different hierarchies of acceptable and unacceptable emotions. Then there is also the specific culture within your family of origin. And finally, your own personal emotional culture that you cultivate in response to a combination of your personality, these wider cultures of influence, and your particular life experiences.

You may have a belief, for instance, that it is wrong to ever be angry. Or to cry in public (or at all). Or have come to label certain emotions as unacceptable and unattractive — resentment, for instance — and hence bury these feelings instead of allowing them to come up, be acknowledged, move through you, and be transformed.

Transformed, for instance, into energy for taking action.

‘Big boys don’t cry.’ ‘Oh well, there are people worse off than you,’ ‘But she didn’t mean to hurt you.’ ‘Can’t complain, can you?’ ‘Don’t be a sook.’ These are some of the many ways we try to damp down emotion in ourselves and others, and way too often in children. Thus very often feelings of shame or anger get added onto the original feeling and buried in the mix.

Or you may have been a very sensitive child in a less-than-perfect family situation, who was never given appropriate help or modelling for how to handle emotions in an effective way. Being the ‘feeler’ in a family (the ‘cry baby’, the ‘over-sensitive one’) can be extremely painful. So perhaps at some stage you made a decision to simply shut them down and not feel them, to become very ‘rational’, and ‘think’ your way out of feeling.

But burying feelings doesn’t just create momentary stress. It can have severe long-term effects. Perhaps not immediately, but almost always eventually.

Emotions are powerful. Their energy — like all energy — doesn’t just disappear. It is either transformed (felt, acknowledged, released: fuelling action or change or growth), or it stays in the body, stuck, stagnating, causing havoc.

For instance, a buried feeling (perhaps going way back to early childhood) can create a ‘trigger’, so that anything that is similar in some way has a tendency to re-activate this dormant energy, causing a stronger than necessary reaction to the new event (an ‘over-reaction’).

Each time this occurs, if the energy of the new emotional experience is not dealt with appropriately, then it gets added to and stored with the original one. So that each time this happens, the emotions become harder and harder to ‘control’ and more disruptive and painful.

For some, repressing or disowning emotion can become a habitual response — so that eventually it happens in a nano-second, way below the level of awareness. This habit can be very serious, because it means you no longer have access to your most important guidance system.

The tiny alarm bells that allow you to move through the world in a relaxed way are things like ‘Hmm.. for some reason this makes me feel bad’. If you have this shut off, then how are you to distinguish between safe and unsafe?

Without this internal guidance system, the whole world can feel potentially dangerous. ‘Be vigilant’ and ‘brace yourself’ becomes the default position rather than one activated temporarily and as appropriate.

To be in this state of chronic ‘hypervigilence’ (always in a mild state of ‘flight, fright or freeze’) is increasingly being recognised as a significant factor in physio-neurological conditions (most chronic conditions) and in the creation of disease.

Here’s some questions you might like ask yourself whenever you feel even slightly destabilised:

What am I feeling?

What do I need?

Two questions that, asked often enough, might just change your life.

Thanks for reading.

What’s your favourite cold & flu remedy or prevention tip? Here’s mine, and it works.

I used to get the flu at least four times a year, often much more. Any time it was going around, I’d get it, and usually be sick for several weeks at a time.

But over the past ten years, I’ve probably had the flu no more than half-a-dozen times in total.

The most recent was about 18 months ago, when I missed the warning signs and didn’t get to my favourite preventive remedy in time.

So: universal disclaimer — I am not a doctor. (Well, not that kind of a doctor.)

I’m sharing this because my personal experience is that this works extremely well if you use it at the first sign of a cold or flu (eg the first touch of a sore throat); and the idea behind it, from what I’ve read, seems pretty reasonable.

My experience is that it may also reduce the intensity and duration of a flu, and help clear it up when nothing else seems to. But it definitely works best when you use it right at the start to stop it taking hold.

What is it, and how does it work?

[cold and flu prevention remedy pic ]

Viruses and most disease-causing bacteria are generally anaerobic – they don’t like oxygen.

Thus it seems reasonable that if you use something that can boost the oxygen content in your blood even very slightly, this can create an environment that is less friendly to the virus, which assists your immune system to neutralise it, and thus aids the body to heal.

I’ve used Oxydrops in the past, which is a very weak (3%) food grade version of Hydrogen Peroxide (a few drops dissolved in a big glass of water, and btw it must be food grade H2O2 Don’t use the ordinary stuff you get from the chemist, altho that makes a great topical disinfectant – but it’s not for ingestion).

You can usually buy a version of oxydrops (ie food-grade H2O2) from a health food store. However it doesn’t stay potent very long after you open it and so is a much more expensive option. (Still cheaper than many OTC medications though.)

Nowadays I buy a 500 ml bottle of OxyMin® Plus, Liquid Diatomic Oxygen Supplement, which seems to do the same thing but uses minerals and salts. I get this from www.naturalhealthdirect.com.au for around $50AUD and I keep it in the fridge. One bottle will last me at least a year.

(And note, I have no connection to the makers of this or the natural health website, and no financial stake at all in recommending this. I’m recommending it simply because in my experience, it works.)

Here’s the description from their website:

OxyMin® Plus is a liquid solution which contains intact oxygen molecules ready for immediate absorption. Unlike healthy human cells that love oxygen, the disease causing viruses, bacteria, fungi, and parasites like most primitive lower life forms, are almost all anaerobic. That means these microbes cannot live in an oxygen environment.

If you’re an adult using it for the first time, I’d start with ten drops in a glass of water, three or four times a day and build up to 25 drops. I find I can take a capful in a big glass of water with no problems, but when you’re not used to it, some people can feel a little queasy in this larger dose. Always best to start small.

(If you want help working out a good dosage, you can ring Naturalhealthdirect and ask to speak to their naturopath or someone who can advise you.)

Usually I find I only need that one good dose as soon as I start to notice a sore throat. I know from experience that this is my signal, and if I take it at the very first sign, that’s the end of it. If I miss that first subtle signal, or if I’m not near my fridge (or haven’t taken a little stash with me), I may have to take it up to 4 times in the first day or two, until there’s no more symptoms.

When this happens, I’ll often feel more tired than usual for those days, but as long as I’m also taking care of my health in other ways and getting plenty of good sleep, that’s all I’ll notice. (While others around me are hawking and coughing and moaning and having days and weeks off work.) I suspect that this tiredness is my immune system working overtime. But, generally, one or a couple of doses will do the trick and I’ll be fine.

If I’ve left it too late and the flu has already taken hold, then I keep using the Oxymin Plus and I feel this does help me heal a little faster (especially from the deeper chesty stuff) but it’s not nearly as effective that way and you have to keep taking it fairly consistently.

So it is important to be body-aware, and pay attention to your signs and signals, especially if others around are infected. Panicking never helps, so this is not about being neurotically obsessed with every twinge. But knowing I have a remedy that works for me in the fridge helps me be calm and vigilant.

That’s one part of my prevention-first-aid pack. The other is High Strength Olive Leaf Extract from the same company. It has a yummy sweetish taste, and I usually take a tea-spoonful of that at the same time as I take the oxymin. I find this particularly useful for sore throats and chest congestion.

Sometimes I just take one or the other, sometimes both. But I’ve been doing this for years and have a pretty good sense of what’s needed.

If you’ve been hit with repeated flus, I would suggest that you buy a 500 ml bottle of each of these, keep it in the fridge, and use them both as soon as you suspect you may have been infected. And note, this also works well for a stomach bug too.

Repeated flus are more than just annoying and time consuming. They can really wear down your immune system and can lead to the kinds of post-viral syndromes that I would not wish on my worst enemy (if I had one, which luckily I don’t).

As far as I can tell, when used as recommended, these products are completely safe.

As to the cost — initial outlay for both will be about $80 (or less if you go the smaller trial size).

I suggest you bite the bullet now (while the memory of that last horrible flu is still in your mind) and invest in a bottle of each to keep in the fridge.

These will cost you way less in the long run than the buying Over the Counter (OTC) preparations, which usually have side-effects as well as containing a host of preservatives, flavours and chemicals. And if it saves you one day off work, then it’s paid for itself.

Given my past history, I’d say this has saved me from at least half a dozen bad flus or gastro events each year, which would tally up to at least 30 sick days a year that I’m sparing myself. Considering not only the inconvenience and discomfort, but also the damage this does to my immune system, it seems money well spent.

So here’s the links:

Oxymin Liquid Diatomic Oxygen Supplement

Olea High Strength Olive Leaf Extract

If you try it, let me know how it goes in the comments.

Also, what are your favourite cold & flu remedies? I’d love to hear them.

What keeps you awake at night? Using EFT for insomnia and deeper sleep

Sleep is one of the five pillars of good health:

— healthy breathing
— good food and digestion
— good sleep
— good movement
— and the ability to feel and release emotions as they arise rather than bottle them up to create unhealthy stress.


Good sleep has its roots in your day, with how you manage your energy and emotions, the kind and amount of food you eat, and how well and often you move your body. Getting enough sunlight and keeping a regular rhythm is also critical. And how you breathe is enormously important; I’ll be posting more about this soon.

EFT is a great tool for helping with day to day stresses, and for clearing old emotional pain and triggers. It’s a self-help tool, but many of us can benefit from working with a practitioner on deeper or trickier issues.

If you would like help working through any stressful issues in your life at the moment, and would like to give EFT and Matrix Reimprinting a try (which we can do over Skype, no matter where you are in the world), contact me to arrange a no-obligation chat.

If you want to have a look at what others have said about working with me to become less stressed, more empowered, check out these stories.

Meanwhile, here’s a video from Brad Yates that you might like to use before bed tonight:

Sleep well. And happy dreaming.