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Robert Scaer – on trauma, PTSD, painful childhood memories & the way ‘the body bears the burden’

Here’s a fascinating video with Robert Scaer (author of The Body Bears the Burden) about the physiology and neurology of unprocessed trauma and hence why tools like EFT and Matrix Reimprinting can often work in surprising ways with chronic illness and pain.

If you would like to find out more about how EFT and Matrix Reimprinting can help you to change the way you respond to your past and hence live more fully and with more choice in the present, give me a call on 0419 580 382 or use the contact form to arrange a time to talk or to book a session.

How we enter and how we leave: some thoughts on International Midwives Day

How we enter, and how we leave. For a long time, in our culture, the ‘how’ has been considered unimportant, as long as we don’t suffer.

When my mother gave birth to her third son, the story goes that he popped out with a whoosh as soon as she got to the hospital, and before there was time to call the doctor.

Apparently her first words after this event was ‘Do I still have to have the enema?’

Possibly an apocryphal story, but such an eager entrance does fit with my brother’s energy and enthusiasm for life.

For the rest of us, it was the 1950s and my mother wasn’t even expected to be consciously present. In fact it seemed more convenient if she wasn’t, so she was given a good dosing of twightlight drugs to blank her out at that final painful stage. When she came to again, the birth was all over, and we were nice and cleaned and wrapped up and whisked away so she could sleep.

When my sister gave birth to her first daughter in the 1980s, things were different, and my mother was invited to hold her newest grandchild soon after she was born. My mother had given birth to six children, and this was the first time she’d ever held and looked into the eyes of a baby who was less than an hour old.

Do these things matter?

When I do EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique or Meridian tapping) and Matrix Reimprinting with clients and with myself, it certainly seems that it does matter. We often end up going back to the birth scene, and even before, as a place where patterns and negative beliefs first really took hold. The more sensitive the child, the more stressed the mother, the more impact these things can have.

Matrix Reimprinting is an amazingly effective method of sending yourself back, imaginatively, to re-story an event or experience, usually by tapping on the Echo of oneself in that moment (the ‘Energetic consciousness hologram’) to release painful feelings and fears; and to resource that earlier self and those around you in ways that weren’t available to them at the time.

The idea is to change the details of the memory to something positive, and thus change the feelings and lessons (the beliefs) associated with that memory that are held in our unconscious minds and in our bodies (including our neurological bodies). This way we can change the way we respond to events and opportunities and challenges in the present.

For instance, if your experiences lead you to believe deep in your being that the world is safe, friendly and nurturing and that your needs and feelings, and those of your carers, are important and respected, you will probably respond differently to life than if your formative experiences have led you to feel unsafe, uncared for, alone, and not even sure if you want to be here.

When I do EFT and Matrix Reimprinting with clients, if it goes back to birth issues they often want to bring in some great midwives to support their mother. It makes a huge difference to the imprint and thus impact of that deep memory.

And I’ve heard from those who work in this area that babies in the womb seem to love having EFT performed on their mothers. The bond in the womb is deep, and the womb is, after all, their world at this time.

So, happy International Midwives Day, and please take a moment to send a cyber-kiss to your midwife, if you had one, and to all those who supported your Mum at your birth.

If you are interested in EFT coaching and Matrix Reimprinting, there are lots of great coaches who can work with you via Skype or by phone, or in person if you live nearby. If you’re interested in having a chat with me about this kind of coaching, give me a call or send a message.

If you’re particularly interested in Matrix Reimprinting as it relates to the birth experience, check out UK trainer and practitioner Sharon King’s website at http://www.magicalnewbeginnings.com/

And for great links on all things to do with birth, science, neurology, health and the medical system, follow Carolyn Hastie at @thinkbirth on twitter, or visit her website at http://www.thinkbirth.blogspot.com


*the image of the baby’s hand is by Jonathan Fitch, courtesy of www.freedigitalphotos.net

*the image of the baby held by forceps is from the 1993 film, Midwives… Lullabies… and Mother Earth, available at http://aso.gov.au/titles/documentaries/midwives/

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What happens in a Matrix Reimprinting healing session?

I recently had an email from someone who was interested in doing some emotional healing work with me over Skype, but who was unable to get time alone in the house to coincide with my availability. She was worried that if she sobbed, or shouted in anger, that her children and partner would hear.

It’s so important to feel safe during a session, so I thought I’d share my response here.

Matrix Reimprinting is a very gentle process, and one of the things that is unusual about it is that it is the Echo (your younger self, who we visit in the Matrix or in imagination) who is the real client.

During a session you will acting (with my guidance) more as a therapist or friend for healing your Echo.

So one of my jobs is to keep you ‘disassociated’ – ie calm – so you can be effective in your role. If you ever start to get really caught up in the emotion experienced by your Echo (ie get angry or start to cry), then we freeze the picture and I pull you out (so to speak) and get you to tap until you feel calm again. (I also have a few other techniques I use to help this process.)

So if there is a need to feel or experience strong emotions in a session, it is done by the Echo and, as the Echo is pure energy at this stage, we can usually help her (or him) to move through her feelings fairly rapidly, so she can get to a place where she can start to look at the event or issue differently and start identifying her own solutions and lessons and where she’d like to go with it.

I have had clients who cried whenever they tried to approach a particular memory. Usually we can find ways to help them to remain calm and still go into the memory fully.  But it depends on the client and their situation. One client took several months before she could approach a specific deeply traumatic memory, so we used ways to work on it and defuse the intensity of it without actually going there, until she finally felt strong enough to work on it directly. Every situation is different, and the client is always the one in control of the pace and focus.

But while I have a box of tissues on the table when I work in person with clients, you’d be surprised how rarely they are used, even when we are doing very deep and effective work.

I’ve also had clients who had Echoes who really needed to express their anger – especially if this expression was denied to them or repressed at the time of the event, or habitually repressed in relation to a person or issue.  In one case the Echo decided she wanted to go to a favourite ocean lookout spot at night and yell and scream and shout there. So we did all that in the Matrix/imagination, and made sure the Echo felt completely safe to really let it out (drawing on all the senses – sight, sound, smell, taste, touch – to make it feel as real as possible). Another time she chose to create a special secret room in her house where she could go to punch cushions and throw bottles against a wall.

The imagination is a powerful tool. And our job is to do whatever the Echo needs and asks for, to make it completely safe to express him or herself fully and completely. Sometimes this can happen very fast. And sometimes we need to go a bit slower.

Privacy to do this is important, but so far I’ve not had a problem working with clients over Skype if they are able to have their door closed.  Actually the biggest problem is having people come into the room and interrupting because they don’t realise what intense work is going on as there isn’t any loud crying or shouting.

So if you are not able to come to work with me in person at Terrigal (on the NSW Central Coast), we can still work over Skype.

If working over Skype, it is important to convey to your family members that you will be unavailable to them for this time (allow a bit over an hour  so there’s no pressure, and to give yourself time to sit and reflect after if you want). Ask them to respect this and not knock or come in.

If you’d like to try the first time with them out of the house and are able to set that up, then by all means do so.

If you are considering working with me or any coach and have these kinds of concerns, another thing you might like to do is to tap on them. (Go here if you need some instructions or a reminder on how to tap using EFT). eg ‘Even though I don’t feel private enough to have sessions with Beth while my family is in the house…. Even tho I’m afraid I’ll need to shout or cry…. Even tho I’m afraid they’ll hear me and think…’ (Be as specific as you can.)

Just tap and see what happens. Generally people find that they have the answers inside them. Once you clear the cloudy feelings, it’s amazing how solutions and ideas just pop up.

While you’re at it, you may also want to tap on any concerns about spending money on therapy or coaching, or about not having enough money for it right now. Just tap on your feelings about it in as much detail as you can. Include anything that comes up or has ever come up for you in relation to this. Be honest with yourself as you tap. Say aloud the reasons you want to do it, and the reasons you don’t think you can or should, as you tap around the meridian points. See what happens. See if something shifts around this, or a new way of looking at it, or a new idea, comes up.

I know money can be a huge issue for many of us, especially if you have a family depending on you. But it’s also important to honour yourself and your own heart’s needs.

I personally feel that working on your own issues is the best gift you can ever give to your children and your partner (and your friends). But if you tap on this for a bit, you may be able to get a clearer message from your deep self about whether or not this is an important investment for you and your family at this time. Or if there’s another better way to go about this.

There is always a part of you that knows.

If you have any questions about working over Skype or in person at Terrigal, or about Matrix Reimprinting and EFT in general, please do feel free to ask.

Or phone me in Australia on 0419 580 382 or 02 4384 4942 to have a chat.