Here’s a fascinating video with Robert Scaer (author of The Body Bears the Burden) about the physiology and neurology of unprocessed trauma and hence why tools like EFT and Matrix Reimprinting can often work in surprising ways with chronic illness and pain.
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How we enter, and how we leave. For a long time, in our culture, the ‘how’ has been considered unimportant, as long as we don’t suffer.
When my mother gave birth to her third son, the story goes that he popped out with a whoosh as soon as she got to the hospital, and before there was time to call the doctor.
Apparently her first words after this event was ‘Do I still have to have the enema?’
Possibly an apocryphal story, but such an eager entrance does fit with my brother’s energy and enthusiasm for life.
For the rest of us, it was the 1950s and my mother wasn’t even expected to be consciously present. In fact it seemed more convenient if she wasn’t, so she was given a good dosing of twightlight drugs to blank her out at that final painful stage. When she came to again, the birth was all over, and we were nice and cleaned and wrapped up and whisked away so she could sleep.
When my sister gave birth to her first daughter in the 1980s, things were different, and my mother was invited to hold her newest grandchild soon after she was born. My mother had given birth to six children, and this was the first time she’d ever held and looked into the eyes of a baby who was less than an hour old.
Do these things matter?
When I do EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique or Meridian tapping) and Matrix Reimprinting with clients and with myself, it certainly seems that it does matter. We often end up going back to the birth scene, and even before, as a place where patterns and negative beliefs first really took hold. The more sensitive the child, the more stressed the mother, the more impact these things can have.
Matrix Reimprinting is an amazingly effective method of sending yourself back, imaginatively, to re-story an event or experience, usually by tapping on the Echo of oneself in that moment (the ‘Energetic consciousness hologram’) to release painful feelings and fears; and to resource that earlier self and those around you in ways that weren’t available to them at the time.
The idea is to change the details of the memory to something positive, and thus change the feelings and lessons (the beliefs) associated with that memory that are held in our unconscious minds and in our bodies (including our neurological bodies). This way we can change the way we respond to events and opportunities and challenges in the present.
For instance, if your experiences lead you to believe deep in your being that the world is safe, friendly and nurturing and that your needs and feelings, and those of your carers, are important and respected, you will probably respond differently to life than if your formative experiences have led you to feel unsafe, uncared for, alone, and not even sure if you want to be here.
When I do EFT and Matrix Reimprinting with clients, if it goes back to birth issues they often want to bring in some great midwives to support their mother. It makes a huge difference to the imprint and thus impact of that deep memory.
And I’ve heard from those who work in this area that babies in the womb seem to love having EFT performed on their mothers. The bond in the womb is deep, and the womb is, after all, their world at this time.
So, happy International Midwives Day, and please take a moment to send a cyber-kiss to your midwife, if you had one, and to all those who supported your Mum at your birth.
If you are interested in EFT coaching and Matrix Reimprinting, there are lots of great coaches who can work with you via Skype or by phone, or in person if you live nearby. If you’re interested in having a chat with me about this kind of coaching, give me a call or send a message.
If you’re particularly interested in Matrix Reimprinting as it relates to the birth experience, check out UK trainer and practitioner Sharon King’s website at http://www.magicalnewbeginnings.com/
It’s Anzac Day in Australia, the day we down tools to remember those affected by WW1, in particular those who died.
As a child I found this national grieving and honoring of friendship, courage and loyalties immensely moving, as we would sit in our desks at school during Anzac week and listen once again to the story of Simpson and his Donkey.
As I grew older, with Australia’s involvement in the US-Vietnam war still fresh in our minds, my generation became critical of what seemed a day devoted to glorifying a State process that was horrific and destructive on so many levels.
These days, Anzac Day has been revived as a day of ritual and mourning, with pilgrimages by increasing numbers of younger Australians to Gallipoli and Kokoda, and special tv features exploring the history of Australia’s involvement in the World Wars.
Of all sins and mistakes and crimes, the taking of another life is the one that our culture — through laws and funding — regards as the most serious; and the saving of a life that is considered the most heroic.
When someone is either conscripted or volunteers to go to war, he or she is not only risking his or her own life, but is also being called on to take lives.
I learned that in many native tribes the boys at a certain age are separated from the tribe by the elders and prepared to become warriors. The ordeal of the battle serves as a rite of passage, where the warrior seeks transformation into adulthood, to take a new place in society. In battle, the warrior faces his own limitations and can find himself in an almost godlike situation, where he has the power to grant or take life, as well as sacrifice his own life for a higher purpose such as protecting his tribe. The tribe witnesses the ordeal, and offers respect by telling the stories of the warriors and the battle. Then the tribe takes responsibility for the war and releases the warrior from having to carry the burden of what happened. The warrior goes through a cleansing ritual and takes his new place in society, often including his receiving a new name that acknowledges his new status in the tribe.
When a warrior does not have the support of his community and society, and where there are no rituals for processing battlefield experiences, and where he has to struggle with] betrayal of that which is right during his ordeal, his path can be interrupted. He can literally get emotionally and cognitively stuck during his rite of passage. One common situation that can cause this is when the elders – in our society the chain of command – lets him down instead of supporting and protecting him as it was the traditional role of the elders. In Vietnam, for example, the chain of command could be disconnected frequently, while the soldiers remained in the jungle, facing endangerment through an inexperienced commander they couldn’t trust. For a veteran, this is a huge betrayal on his sacred contract as a warrior and causes great anger.
Another painful example is when the tribe lets the warrior down. Many returning Vietnam veterans were spit at and called baby killers. This is often one of the first traumas I work on with a Vietnam Veteran. Today’s warriors repeatedly share how unbearable they find the rage and the sense of betrayal by the tribe – those whom he was sent out to protect and lay down his life for.
The images used in this post are from Sidney Nolan’s extraordinarly moving Gallipoli series, which he donated to the Australian War Museum. Selections from the collection are currently touring regional galleries and are well worth a visit. See www.awm.gov.au/exhibitions/nolan/
For Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PSTD) see also the work of neurologist Robert Scaer — interview (mp3 & pdf transcript) with Rick Wilkes & Cathy Vartuli ; his website at www.traumasoma.com ; and articles such as The Neurophysiology of Dissociation and Chronic Disease, Published in Applied Psychophysiology and Biofeedback, 2001, 26(1), 73-91. Note this work is also relevant and extremely interesting for other chronic neuro-physiological conditions such as Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS).